Aha of today

#AhaOfToday Are you pushing against someone or are you pushing together. If you’re noticing that you’re pushing against someone, switch into curiosity about their situation. – Removable Discomfort by Troubleshooting Agile

#AhaOfToday I just stepped out from a meetup that had one person that kept making annotations on the shared screen (and had the camera off). Neither the host nor the speaker addressed it in time and then we were invited into breakout rooms. Sorry, no.

#AhaOfToday At work, whatever the problem, propose an initial solution (even when it’s obviously incomplete). A lot of of people (myself included) get stuck at the stage of raising the issue and that’s fine, but it’s not leadership.

#AhaOfToday I discovered a new category of software: “done&done software”. Never before have I considered the possibility of software that does not need any development because just works (the metaphor for this is a factory machine).

#AhaOfToday Sometimes I shoot down new ideas before any dialogue. Doing this might create distance between me and the proposer. The first iteration of fixing this behavior: if I have nothing good to say, say nothing.

#AhaOfToday A lot of my happiness at work is tied to the quality of the code I work with. And the reality is that, for most of my career, that quality was less than I expected, leading to me being unhappy quite often. Happiness should not depend on external circumstances…

#AhaOfToday I feel awkward when top leadership in companies refers to employees as a family. And I couldn’t figure out why. Here’s why: family is forever and business is business. Let’s not set false expectations.

#AhaOfToday When I learn NVC, the focus is usually on healing relationships and deepening connections. In the workplace, the focus is to get something done and NVC needs to adapt to that.

AhaOfToday Control is a strategy to meet deeper needs. For example, someone that micromanages might need assurance that the job will be done well, predictability, and perhaps respect. This view allows us to understand behaviors better.

#AhaOfToday Despite my best intentions and best effort at choosing my words in written communication, cultural differences might lead to misunderstandings and conflicts in the workplace.