#AhaOfToday Sometimes I shoot down new ideas before any dialogue. Doing this might create distance between me and the proposer. The first iteration of fixing this behavior: if I have nothing good to say, say nothing.
#AhaOfToday A lot of my happiness at work is tied to the quality of the code I work with. And the reality is that, for most of my career, that quality was less than I expected, leading to me being unhappy quite often. Happiness should not depend on external circumstances…
#AhaOfToday I feel awkward when top leadership in companies refers to employees as a family. And I couldn’t figure out why. Here’s why: family is forever and business is business. Let’s not set false expectations.
#AhaOfToday When I learn NVC, the focus is usually on healing relationships and deepening connections. In the workplace, the focus is to get something done and NVC needs to adapt to that.
AhaOfToday Control is a strategy to meet deeper needs. For example, someone that micromanages might need assurance that the job will be done well, predictability, and perhaps respect. This view allows us to understand behaviors better.
#AhaOfToday Despite my best intentions and best effort at choosing my words in written communication, cultural differences might lead to misunderstandings and conflicts in the workplace.
#AhaOfToday Is writing a technical blog post going to bring me closer to my goal of becoming a manager? Honestly, no. It’s painful to throw away the material when it no longer serves my goal.
#AhaOfToday When my to-do manager becomes the director of my day, it’s time to get rid of it. The reality is that I can handle a maximum of two other projects besides work. I don’t need a to-do manager for that.
#AhaOfToday When a task fails to create enough stimulation, we end up relying on other strategies to bring up the stimulation. A common one is drinking coffee. There are others, like working together with someone else on the problem or procrastinating.
#AhaOfToday When I am listening and don’t enjoy what I’m hearing, I’m used to moving towards expressing myself. That leads to having 2 people expressing… which doesn’t really work. There’s another way: that I move into self-care.