Aha of today

#ahaoftoday Instead of negative/positive/constructive feedback, think of it as ‘reinforcing’ or ‘redirecting’. In this framing, it’s easier to focus on the intention of growth and learning.

#ahaoftoday A simple, but strong metaphor for motivation, by Jonathan Haidt: the Elephant (emotional side) and the Rider (rational side). The rider can’t go that far by forcing the elephant.

#ahaoftoday Use “Disagree and commit” as a strategy for avoiding the consensus trap and for maintaining velocity.

#ahaoftoday “It’s not about writing code, it’s about people working together” – Simon Coles

#ahaoftoday Though I aim to have clear and integer intentions in my communication, my delivery and the receiver’s state may still lead to a negative perception of the message.

#ahaoftoday I can joke about my judgy-ness. That will help me take it less serious and get over it faster.

#ahaoftoday Focus on what you have control over. Collaborate when you have indirect control. Don’t bother with the rest.

#ahaoftoday This volunteer-driver platform for matching mentors and mentees: https://adplist.org/. Just in case your org doesn’t have an internal mentoring program and you crave growth 😉

#ahaoftoday Style and personality are two different things. Style is learned and you don’t need to be a different person to do things differently.

#ahaoftoday Defeat Retrospective Coherence: Instead of saying “Why didn’t they just…?”, try saying “They paved the way for me to move forward” OR “It was an experiment with negative results”. I’ve done my fair share of negative-results experiments…